Experiences
There was no need to barge in the way they did. They were just all too heavy handed. It was absolutely horrific. I just cried. I couldn’t stop crying.
They were caring. They were gentle. They clearly didn’t suspect me of anything.
I relive the whole nightmare on a daily basis. I relive the arrest, the police being here, watching him leave, just the whole thing… I’m anxious, I don’t sleep because most days I’m awake at four o’clock. You know, it’s like your brain is telling you, you’ve got to be awake at four o’clock because something’s going to happen again… I get no respite from it.
It was four o’clock in the morning and there was a bang on the door. It was only myself and the kids here and the dog was going crazy. I got up and answered the door and there were six policemen stood there.
The whole family unit are treated like criminals. And I think it’s appalling. The way the whole thing was dealt with… I totally get why, in some circumstances, police officers would act the way they did with violent offenders or repeat offenders that are known to them and could possibly cause issues or harm… but for somebody who had never been in this system before, and to be treated like that, it was a huge shock to all of us.
I was told by one of the police that came to the house that he’s going to prison tomorrow morning. “Don’t expect him to come over. He’s not coming home for what he’s done.” Then he sort of laughed and said, “Oh, you must have known what he was doing.” And I said, “No, this is a shock to me.” And I could just tell by the tone of the voice, he didn’t really believe me.
…the police were here and the neighbours have been a bit nosy and, you know, I’ve seen them sort of looking out the window… that’s definitely been a factor in my emotions, the guilt and shame.
There was no need to barge in the way they did. They were just all too heavy handed. It was absolutely horrific. I just cried. I couldn’t stop crying.
They were caring. They were gentle. They clearly didn’t suspect me of anything.
I relive the whole nightmare on a daily basis. I relive the arrest, the police being here, watching him leave, just the whole thing… I’m anxious, I don’t sleep because most days I’m awake at four o’clock. You know, it’s like your brain is telling you, you’ve got to be awake at four o’clock because something’s going to happen again… I get no respite from it.
It was four o’clock in the morning and there was a bang on the door. It was only myself and the kids here and the dog was going crazy. I got up and answered the door and there were six policemen stood there.
The whole family unit are treated like criminals. And I think it’s appalling. The way the whole thing was dealt with… I totally get why, in some circumstances, police officers would act the way they did with violent offenders or repeat offenders that are known to them and could possibly cause issues or harm… but for somebody who had never been in this system before, and to be treated like that, it was a huge shock to all of us.
I was told by one of the police that came to the house that he’s going to prison tomorrow morning. “Don’t expect him to come over. He’s not coming home for what he’s done.” Then he sort of laughed and said, “Oh, you must have known what he was doing.” And I said, “No, this is a shock to me.” And I could just tell by the tone of the voice, he didn’t really believe me.
…the police were here and the neighbours have been a bit nosy and, you know, I’ve seen them sort of looking out the window… that’s definitely been a factor in my emotions, the guilt and shame.